Regret Can Teach the Best Lessons

I didn’t go to my brother’s funeral. Neither did my sister go. We had nothing against Phil. We loved him. We didn’t attend because we were both paralyzed by fear, the fear of disappointment and rejection from our Dad. I’m telling you this painful story in the hopes of...

5 Ways Jesus Proved He Was Not a People Pleaser, Part 3

4. Jesus says not to swear an oath. Just say yes or no and mean it from Matthew 5:33-37 ESV “But I say to you, do not take an oath at all…Let what you say be simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’; anything more than this comes from evil.” Matt. 5:33a, 37 Jesus says not to promise...

5 Ways Jesus Proved He Was Not a People Pleaser, Part 2

2. Jesus says no to his best friends. Matthew 20:20-28, ESV He said, “…to sit at My right hand and at my left is not mine to grant, but it is for those for whom it has been prepared by my Father.” Matthew 20:23b,c The mother of Jesus’ closest disciples, James and...

5 Ways Jesus Proved He Was Not a People Pleaser

  Part 1  Matthew 12:1-50   People pleasing is a common behavior of codependency.  At first, it might seem like a selfless act.  But it can easily be part of a destructive relationship pattern.  We are trying to control someone’s behavior toward us by acting in a...

The Search for Significance Book Review

  It is fitting that The Search for Significance by Robert S. McGee, Word Publishing, Nashville, updated 2003, is my first book review on Christian Codependent Victor.  Many years ago, I was very unhappy.  Depression, anxiety, fear, resentment and worry were always...